Unhappy despite the joy of having children

By Melody HansenLex Kleren Switch to German for original article

In Germany, 10 to 15 percent of women develop postnatal depression after giving birth. In Luxembourg, statistics are lacking. No numbers, no problems? The experiences of affected mothers, a psychologist, a midwife and a doula show the opposite. Breaking this taboo is long overdue.

After the birth of her son, Bianka asked her doctor to remove her uterus. "I never wanted to go through that again", says the 36-year-old mother. She sits on the white sofa in her living room, her two dogs beside her. Her son is now two and a half and asleep upstairs in his room. She lowers her eyes to her belly, which is now round as a ball again. Seventh month. "Fortunately, the doctor refused to honor my request." She was still too young for a so-called hysterectomy, he had said.

The reason for Bianka's determination at the time was her mental condition. She was suffering from postnatal depression. A phenomenon that is much more common than many would think – the interviewees agree on that. Because new mothers often don't dare to express their feelings. "Your child is healthy, be happy.", "What more do you want?", "A little baby blues is normal." – Feelings of guilt, sadness and generally negative emotions have no place in our society after a birth.

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